Exactly How To Have Phone Sex Without Feeling Awkward, Per Expert Sources
Something we wished more people talked about part 5,983: phone sex. File that under those sexual fantasies youd really like to be less of a dream and more of a reality-like joining the mile high club, for example. Luckily, you dont need a private jet for this kind of sex. Just your phone, your partner, and some courage.
Phone sex is all about the auditory eroticism, says Shamyra Howard, LCSW, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and founder of onthegreencouch. But its not just for long-distance relationships where physical intimacy is miles away.
“People use phone sex to increase eroticism and sexual play in their relationships,” says Howard. Its a great way for any and all couples to spice things up, feel sexually validated, and get off. After all, research shows that novelty is like an aphrodisiac for your brain.
But like any sexual activity thats new and unfamiliar, phone sex can feel daunting and uncomfortable. “Its really vulnerable,” says Dr. Jenni Skyler, PhD, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and director of The Intimacy Institute. “Youre putting yourself out there, and it takes a lot of courage.” But thats no reason not to try.
“Once you try it and realize it’s not so scary and dangerous, it can be really fun,” Skyler adds. “Anything new and unfamiliar can feel intimidating, but thats okay, let yourself feel the intimidation.” Your first-time phone sex motto: Feel the fear, and do it anyway.
